Do You Make This Mistake? – Learn The Art Of Eliminating Negative Self Talk

Posted by Kagisho in Conscious LivingFeb 3rd, 2010 | no responses

Recently I find that I am getting more aware of my inner self talk. I’m putting in more effort to listen to what I am saying to myself so that I can discover whether what I am saying is empowering or disempowering myself.

Everyone have this inner self talk going on but not everyone will pay attention to it. But believe me, you will want to know what you are saying to yourself everyday. This is one of the key to unleashing your maximum potential. (If you have not get your free copy of Unleash Your Maximum Potential, you can get it here.)

Inner Chatters

So what do I mean by inner self talk? The inner self talk that is happening in you is a form of communication between you and yourself. It is basically talking to yourself about certain topics and it may be positive or negative. Depending on what you are saying to yourself, your own self talk can empower or disempower you.

If you had read the goals that I had set for myself in this year of 2010, you will know that one of my goals is to complete a marathon by the end of the year. My recent trainings have made me more aware of the inner self talk that is going on in my mind.

Recently I had just hit the 6.2 miles mark and whenever I got tired the inner chatters start to surface. Some examples would be.

My legs are tired.
Are you sure you are going to complete a full marathon?
How much more further do I need to go?
When am I going to reach my finishing point?
I feel like my lungs are bursting, maybe it is time to stop?
I’m really tired, can I just stop?
6 miles is tiring enough and I still set a goal to complete a marathon?
Is publishing my goals on my blog a good decision? Now I can’t back off!

Notice anything? These chatters are not positive at all! They create doubts in my mind and increase the possibility of me stopping.

Your Inner Chatters

What about you? Have you ever take note of how are you communicating with yourself? Are you failing with your diet plan or stuck in the job that you hate because of all the negative inner self talk that is going on in you? Are you empowering yourself or disempowering yourself?

These inner self talks are powerful. Imagine every time when you want to start to lose weight, your inner self talk surfaced and you start telling yourself “This is hard!” or “I’m going to suffer in this diet”. How possible do you think that you are going to complete your diet and really start to lose weight? You may not even start in the first place after your negative inner self talks disempower you.

If you do not notice what you are telling to yourself or your negative self talk, you are allowing it to gobble you up. Most likely you will start to feel miserable and frustrated because you will feel that you are not growing and achieving.

How To Get Rid Of The Negative Self Talk

1. Awareness

If you are pursuing personal growth, you may have heard a lot about increasing your awareness. Because only by being aware, you can than know what is wrong and hence make changes to it.

It is the same in this scenario. If you have not caught your negative self talk yet, you may have to be more aware of it. Be more conscious of your emotions. Negative self talk usually surfaces when you are harboring negative emotions. Catch them at this time and take note of them.

2. Question.

Once you took note of the negative self talk, observe it. Ask yourself how these negative chatters are obstructing you from fulfilling your potential and how much frustration has it cause you in the past.

You have to address how much frustration and pain it causes you so that it can help you to reinforce your determination to change it.

3. Decide and Replace.

There isn’t any delete button in our mind and our negative self talk will not go away just by deciding to get rid of it. You will have to replace your negative self talk with a positive one.

Some examples;

Instead of saying “I think I can’t lose weight”, say “I can lose weight easily with the right strategies”.

Instead of saying “I hate my job”, why not say “I now know what I dislike hence I will make a better decision in my next job hunt.”

You get the picture?

You can also do something to interrupt your negative inner chatter to prevent it from happening. Whenever I am jogging and when my negative self talk starts to surface, I immediately interrupt it by saying “keep moving forward”. I kept repeating this 3 words and it pushes away all the negative thoughts and reinforce on my determination to complete my run. By repeating and focusing on my so call mantra, the negative self talk will not be able to surface.

Parting Words

Your negative self talk can disempower you and stop you from taking the action that you want. However when you turn your self talk into a positive one, you will feel much more empowered and capable to achieve the things that you want to achieve.

You want to keep yourself empowered and stay in a positive state for as much time as possible because these are the time when you can take serious action. So start today by being more aware of your self talk and turn them into positive and empowering ones.

Cheers,
Vincent

P.S: So have you noticed about the positive and negative self talk that you are saying to yourself? I look forward to your comments below.

P.P.S: If you have problems capturing your negative self talk, you can either ask me in the comment section or drop me a mail through the contact page.

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Do You Make This Mistake? – Learn The Art Of Eliminating Negative Self Talk