Recently, a very attractive woman, Jennifer, told me that one of her greatest fears was that she would have sexual relations with a man and that he would then abandon her. She wanted a life partner, but based on her fear and her actions, I could see that she was inviting the very behavior she feared most. In my experience, this is quite common. Jennifer’s behavior was similar to that of a Swedish woman I met ten years ago and that of an actress I met this summer. All three women had been conditioned to use their beauty to get what they wanted – offering the promise of future sex in return for things and experiences they wanted now. However, this reliance upon the body – and ultimately, the ego’s idea of fulfillment – is a recipe for disappointment, if not misery.